Home: Where My Coping Skills Go to Die
If the holidays leave you feeling like you’re losing progress, here’s the truth: You’re not slipping. You’re stretching.
Growth doesn’t mean you never get pulled back into old patterns.
Growth means you notice it. You feel it. And slowly—year after year—you choose differently, even if it’s just by a few degrees.
That counts.
That’s movement.
And honestly? That’s resilience in its realest form.
Another Year Around the Sun (and yes i’m still messy)
Because for me, birthdays aren't just a party — they’re a checkpoint. A moment to pause (you know I was gonna say it), breathe, and pivot. It’s the one day a year where I give myself full permission to ask the big questions. Not the “Where should I brunch?” kind of questions (although very important), but more like:
How have I grown this year?
What old stories am I still believing about myself?
Where does my inner child need a hug — or maybe a juice box and a nap?
Yep. We’re going there. Welcome to my annual birthday meltdown/inventory/self-hug ritual.
Spoiler Alert: My Comfort Zone Wasn’t That Comfortable After All
We’ve all heard it: “Growth starts at the end of your comfort zone.” But if you’re anything like many millennials — especially those who are anxious, neurodivergent, perfectionistic, or plain ol’ tired — stepping outside your comfort zone can feel more like free-falling into panic.
So, how do we actually expand our comfort zones without ending up burnt out, dissociating, or spiraling? The answer lies in understanding what a comfort zone actually is — and how to stretch it without snapping.
